Why Our Kid’s Can’t Communicate…

John Dockendorf13 Feb, 2014
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At a break at a camp conference in Boulder last month, I looked out from the second floor at over 100 camp directors in the lobby below. Virtually everyone was gazing into their smart phones completely disengaged from their peers.  It wasn’t that way even three years ago…And this was right after a session where we discussed “how camp was an anecdote for an overly wired world!”  There is hardly a more gregarious, convivial or collegial group of professionals than camp directors and I figured if our networking was taking a back seat to the pressing siren song of electronic multitasking, then the rest of the world has gone even farther down this road.

Snowy Morning at Camp Pinnacle- Feb 13-2014
Snowy Morning at Camp Pinnacle- Feb 13-2014

Watching recent Super Bowl Ads, one could be convinced that technology is the savior of society, but, I also see a huge downside to our obsession with a wired world.  Technological innovation will always outpace the research on its effects, but research data is beginning to show that while there are many benefits, the  connected life our kids now lead comes at a real cost to children’s physical and psychological health.  It’s also affecting the real world skills are kids are learning. “Texting especially for teens has become a substitute for direct, live conversation in a way unlike any other medium in history.” Says psychologist Catherine Steiner – Adair author of, The Big Disconnect, One of the WSJ’s picks for the most important reads in 2013. “Yet learning how to communicate is one of life’s greatest challenges and gifts,” she writes. “The capacity to know and then communicate what you are feeling and thinking when someone else has different thoughts and feelings and you are both upset, is a core life skill.  And it’s one our teens are no longer getting. Texting eliminates empathy, how to express yourself clearly and respectfully, how to respond to body language and tone and how to listen to another.”

Hunger Games - Building teamwork skills at Camp Pinnacle
Hunger Games – Building teamwork skills at Camp Pinnacle

We can’t make the argument that losing our ability to communicate effectively is something that can be sacrificed for the benefits and convenience tech offers, because the market is telling us differently.  Employers (Google, Apple, Microsoft and Dell to name a few) are screaming for employees who possess outstanding communication skills.  I researched five different studies (National Association of Colleges and Employers, University of Kent, Monster Jobs, Quint Careers, and American Association of Colleges) and all placed verbal communication (and teamwork) as two of the top five skills employers are looking for in successful job applicants. The more time our kids are removed from opportunities to build skills in face to face communication and direct personal interaction, the less likely it is that our kids will develop the strong communication and teamwork skills needed for success.

This certainly makes the point that one should study debate in school.  It also makes a compelling case for Summer Camp.  At Camp Pinnacle, we are your partner in giving your kids an exciting alternative to technology. We are successful because outdoor activities are one of the few things that can be even more fun than technology! Like technology, we bring excitement, immediacy, and help kids build identity and independence – all things children need as they grow up– but at the same time, we are enhancing communication and teamwork skills – the same skills employers are screaming for!  A two-week immersion at an outdoor summer camp, where kids are living closely together in cabins without electronics provides an environment that facilities the development of real communication and teamwork skills. Equally important is the fact that the technology free Camp Pinnacle experience gives our campers a different perspective on their technology. When campers have had an incredibly fun time without any phones or iPads, they can discover that while tech still has an important place in their world, it can simply become a tool in their world rather than the dominating force.

Fun teambuilding game
Fun teambuilding game

As parents it’s up to us to ask what values and interpersonal skills we want our children to possess as adults. It’s our job to adjust our family’s lifestyle to emphasize these values. It’s easy to live in denial, but there are long term costs (…and benefits too) to our family’s love and use of technology. Our job as parents is to evaluate the consequences and look for ways to provide the best potential outcomes. My household is no different than most, I’ll come home from work to four kids completely submerged in their digital screens. I’m counting the weeks until my kids can go to Adventure Treks and Camp Pinnacle  and take a digital break.  At Camp the electronics they “need” so much in their day to day will not even be missed!

John Dockendorf

Executive Director

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